Unintended consequences can surprise even the most experienced negotiator

Unintended consequences can surprise even the most experienced negotiator
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So you think that you are hot stuff do you Mr. / Ms. Negotiator? Well, guess what – you still have to live in a place where the law of unintended consequences rules the land. What this means is that all too often, a negotiation can result in consequences that you never saw coming…

What Are Unintended Consequences?

Perhaps a better way to start this discussion is to take just a moment and talk about what intended consequences are. When we use our negotiation styles and negotiating techniques to negotiate with the other side of the table, we believe that the deal that we reach with them will result in intended consequences. By their agreement to the deal, we believe that we know and understand what actions they will take.

That’s all fine and good; however, along with these intended consequences, there are also a whole bunch of unintended consequences. Unintended consequences are those things that we didn’t count on happening that will happen because of the deal that we negotiated.

A classic example of unintended consequences is what happened in the United States when the national ban on alcohol was implemented from 1920-1933. The goal was to eliminate too much drinking and all of the ill effects on society that comes along with that. The unintended consequences that were caused by this law were the rise of powerful underworld crime bosses who provided the citizens with what they really wanted but could not get: alcohol.

What Can You Do About Unintended Consequences?

No, you really can’t prevent unintended consequences from happening as a result of the deal that comes out of your next negotiation. However, being aware that this is something that is going to happen is the first step in being prepared.

An easy way to deal with the law of unintended consequences is to take the time to ask yourself some questions the next time that you are involved in a negotiation. Give the deal that you are working on some thought and try to see it from the other side of the table’s point-of-view. What actions do you think that they might take once the deal is in place?

In the end this always comes back to the true power of a win-win deal. If the other side of the table feels that they have been treated fairly by you, this will minimize the number of unintended consequences that may result from this deal. However, if they feel as though you took advantage of them during the negotiations, then you need to be ready to deal with a lot of unintended consequences once the paperwork has been signed!

What Does All Of This Mean For You?

If you and I controlled the world, there would be no unintended consequences – everything that happened would be expected. However, we don’t and so we have to live with the unintended consequences that can result from our principled negotiation.

What we need to understand is that the unexpected can happen long after we believe that a deal has been reached. People can behave in a way that we didn’t expect them to. As negotiators, we need to keep our eyes open, detect when this is occurring, and then take action.

We live in a crazy, mixed up world and there is very little of it that a negotiator can control. Being aware that the law of unintended consequences is in effect is a critical part of learning to deal with what life throws our way. Use this knowledge to always be prepared to be surprised!

- Dr. Jim Anderson
Blue Elephant Consulting –
Your Source For Real World Negotiating Skills™

Question For You: Is there anything that you can do during a negotiation in order to prepare yourself for the law of unintended consequences?

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What We’ll Be Talking About Next Time

We can very easily get all caught up in thinking about how to be successful in our next negotiation. When we do this, we tend to focus on what negotiation styles or negotiating techniques we plan on using in our next negotiation. This misses the point – negotiations are discussions between people and we always need to keep that at the front of our minds

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Surprise the other side of the table with a gift

Surprise the other side of the table with a gift

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Just exactly what will it take to make your next negotiation a success? Sorry about this, but it’s not going to be the negotiation styles or negotiating techniques that you use. If we keep in mind the cardinal rule of negotiating that each negotiation is just a single step along a path with the other side of the table, we need to ensure that this negotiation leads to a successful next negotiation. How are we going to make this happen?

The Power Of Delight

The key to making the other side of the negotiating table leave the negotiations with a sense of satisfaction is to find ways to delight them during the negotiations. This is less of a tangible thing and much more of a feeling thing.

I’m sure that you’ve been delighted at some point in your life. The way that this happens is that as you are going along and something unexpected happens that makes you happy. Your happiness grows simply because this is something that you were not expecting.

This sense of “delight” is what you are going to want to cause the other side of the table to experience during your next negotiation. The true power of this is that they will remember this long after the negotiations are over and done with. Since you always have to anticipate that you’ll be negotiating with this party again, this is exactly what you want them to remember!

How You Can Use Delight In Your Next Negotiation

If we can all agree that instilling a sense of delight into the other side of the table is what we want to accomplish during our next negotiation, then this all leads to the big question, how are we going to go about doing this?

The easiest way to cause delight to happen is to give something away to the other side of the table without them even having to ask for it. In the world of selling new and used cars, this is often done by including free floor mats or oil changes into the deal that is being negotiated.

Take a look at what you are negotiating and determine what you could throw in for free. At the right time in the negotiations when there is a lull and when the end of the negotiations is in view, offer it to the other side. This ensures that your offer will be both unexpected and warmly received.

What All Of This Means To You

Smart negotiators know that every principled negotiation with another party may just be the first of many such negotiations. That’s why it is so very important to find ways to “delight” the other side of the table – this is what they’ll end up remembering about the negotiations.

The easiest way to delight the other side is to provide them with something free that they were not expecting. In order to do this, you need determine what they’d like to have and then find the right time to present them with it.

By delighting the other side of the table during your next negotiation, you’ll be setting the stage for your next negotiation with them. They’ll come away from this negotiation happy and pleased and when they show up next time, they’ll be in the mood to reach an agreement with you quickly.

- Dr. Jim Anderson
Blue Elephant Consulting –
Your Source For Real World Negotiating Skills™

Question For You: Do you think that you should plan to delight the other side of the table multiple times during a negotiation?

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What We’ll Be Talking About Next Time

So you think that you are hot stuff do you Mr. / Ms. Negotiator? Well, guess what – you still have to live in a place where the law of unintended consequences rules the land. What this means is that all too often, a negotiation can result in consequences that you never saw coming…

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