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The Ultimate Sales Negotiating Goal: A Shared Vision

Friday, March 2nd, 2012
Image Credit I can see where we want to get to…

I can see where we want to get to…

The goal of any negotiation is to get the other side of the table to see things your way. Hmm, how are we going to make that happen? What you are going to have to do is to become skilled at finding ways to support the position that you are taking. In order to get better at doing this, I’ve got 5 tips that will boost your skills…

Tips For Reaching A Deal Faster

If you want to be able to reach a deal with the other side of the table faster, then you’re going to have to take the time to give some thought to what it’s going to take in order to get them to see things your way. In other words, you’ve got some persuading to do. Here’s how to make that happen:

  • Free is Good, Very Good: If you need to get your message across to the other side of the table and for some reason they just won’t listen to you, you’ve got to do something that is going to get their attention. Offering them something for free just might do the trick. A free offer more often than not can cause the other side of the table to open their minds to what you are proposing – sure, you’re giving something away, but you might end up getting a lot more in return.
  • Save the Best For Last: When negotiating about a given topic, you’ll end up discussing many different viewpoints. This means that some of the viewpoints are going to be important to the other side of the table, and some aren’t. You need to take charge of controlling the order in which the viewpoints are presented. You need to do this because you must make sure that the other side’s favorite viewpoint is the one that gets presented last – you are going to want to leave them happy.
  • It’s All About The Middle: When we are negotiating, we may end up presenting a great deal of information to the other side. Let’s face it, there is no way that they are going to remember everything that we’ve told them. This means that we’ve got to realize what the other side will remember: the start of our conversation and the end. This is where we need to pack in the biggest part of our deal making efforts..
  • It’s All About The Ending: All other things being equal, it will be the last few words that came out of your mouth during a negotiation presentation that the other side of the table will remember. This is always true, but it can be even more true when the negotiation is dealing with= a topic or subject that the other side is not as familiar with.
  • Credibility Is Built, Not Bought: In order to be able to successfully reach a deal, you are going to have to find ways to get the other side of the table to believe what you are telling them. This means that you’re going to have to build up credibility with them over the course of the negotiations. The way that you do this is by always being right – you need to b accurate when you make statements. By doing this, you will become more and more believable.

What All Of This Means For You

Every negotiation has the same goal in mind: finding a way for all parties involved to reach a successful deal. The challenge comes from finding a way to get from where everyone starts out to agreeing on that deal in the end.

Skilled negotiators know that they need find ways to support their position if they want to have any hope of reaching a deal in a reasonable amount of time. In order to make this happen, you can use the 5 tips that we’ve discussed in order to steer the other side of the table towards the deal that you want to strike. Try them out and you’ll be amazed at how much quicker you’re able to wrap-up your next negotiating session!

- Dr. Jim Anderson
Blue Elephant Consulting –
Your Source For Real World Negotiating Skills™

Question For You: What should you do if during a sales negotiation you become angry and don’t feel like wooing the other side of the table?

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What We’ll Be Talking About Next Time

In every negotiation, you’ll eventually run out of things to say to the other side of the table. I mean, come on, you’ve already said everything. In fact you may have already said everything more than once! You need to be careful when this happens, either side may feel like giving up without having reached an agreement. Never fear, I’ve got 3 techniques that you can use when you encounter this situation that are guaranteed to turn things around:

The Ultimate Sales Negotiating Goal: A Shared Vision

Friday, February 24th, 2012
Image Credit `You can't have two visions and reach a deal, you need to have one shared vision…

You can't have two visions and reach a deal, you need to have one shared vision…

The goal of any negotiation is to get the other side of the table to see things your way. Hmm, how are we going to make that happen? What you are going to have to do is to become skilled at finding ways to support the position that you are taking. In order to get better at doing this, I’ve got 5 tips that will boost your skills…

Tips For Reaching A Deal Faster

If you want to be able to reach a deal with the other side of the table faster, then you’re going to have to take the time to give some thought to what it’s going to take in order to get them to see things your way. In other words, you’ve got some persuading to do. Here’s how to make that happen:

  • No, You Go First: Often during a negation you’ll find yourself in a situation where you need to communicate two different messages to the other side of the table at the same time. This could be something along the lines of yes we have what you are looking for in the quantity that you need, but the price is going to be higher than you want to pay. In these situations, you need to send the positive message first (“we have what you want”) before you send the negative message (“the price is going to be higher than you wanted”).
  • Focus On What They Want: A negotiation can take a great deal of both time and energy. If you want to boost your chances of finally reaching an agreement with the other side, then you need to keep stressing just how great it’s going to be when both sides are able to finally reach an agreement. Keeping the focus on the benefit of the deal is what will make reaching an agreement that much easier.
  • I Remember Promises: Professional negotiators know that if you are able to understand what the other side of the table really wants and deliver to them a message the generates a need in them, then when you provide them with information about how to meet that need, they’ll remember what you’ve said. However, there is a danger here. If the message that you deliver about their need is filled with threats about what could happen, then the other side will shut down and will reject your proposed soluiton.
  • Lack Of Involvement Is More Believable: Negotiations can get bogged down as each side tries to convince the other side to see things their way. When this happens, it can be helpful to have someone who has not been involved in the negotiations swoop in and deliver the same message that you’ve been trying to get across. Simply by having a non-involved person show up can often make the message more believable.
  • Obscure Other Opinions: I know that during a negotiation, my heart will drop into my shoes if the other side learns that some important person has decided that they oppose something that I am trying to convince them to do. Because of these experiences, I now try to isolate the other side during the negotiations so that outside opinions won’t complicate the negotiations.

What All Of This Means For You

Every negotiation has the same goal in mind: finding a way for all parties involved to reach a successful deal. The challenge comes from finding a way to get from where everyone starts out to agreeing on that deal in the end.

Skilled negotiators know that they need find ways to support their position if they want to have any hope of reaching a deal in a reasonable amount of time. In order to make this happen, you can use the 5 tips that we’ve discussed in order to steer the other side of the table towards the deal that you want to strike. Try them out and you’ll be amazed at how much quicker you’re able to wrap-up your next negotiating session!

- Dr. Jim Anderson
Blue Elephant Consulting –
Your Source For Real World Negotiating Skills™

Question For You: What should you do if during a sales negotiation you become angry and don’t feel like wooing the other side of the table?

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What We’ll Be Talking About Next Time

The goal of any negotiation is to get the other side of the table to see things your way. Hmm, how are we going to make that happen? What you are going to have to do is to become skilled at finding ways to support the position that you are taking. In order to get better at doing this, I’ve got 5 tips that will boost your skills…

Sales Negotiators Ask “Do You See What I See…”?

Friday, February 17th, 2012
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When The Other Side Sees Things The Way That You Do, Then A Deal Is In Sight…

When The Other Side Sees Things The Way That You Do, Then A Deal Is In Sight…

The goal of any negotiation is to get the other side of the table to see things your way. Hmm, how are we going to make that happen? What you are going to have to do is to become skilled at finding ways to support the position that you are taking. In order to get better at doing this, I’ve got 5 tips that will boost your skills…

Tips For Reaching A Deal Faster

If you want to be able to reach a deal with the other side of the table faster, then you’re going to have to take the time to give some thought to what it’s going to take in order to get them to see things your way. In other words, you’ve got some persuading to do. Here’s how to make that happen:

  • It’s Only Good If It’s Hard: Call it human nature, call it what you will – for some odd reason, we all seem to want those things that are hard to get. This means that in a negotiation the reason that you need to make them see why you want that one thing more than anything else if you are going to be able to reach a deal.
  • Our Ears Don’t Work When We’re Mad: I’m pretty sure that those of you with teenagers will fully understand this one. When we become angry during a negotiation, our ears stop working. This means that mad people will reject your message even if what you are offering to them is actually in their best interest.
  • Come Prepared: It’s pretty amazing at just how easily our minds can go blank when we sit down at the negotiating table. That’s why it’s always a good idea to take the time to write down all of the arguments that you can think of in favor of your positions before you sit down at the negotiating table.
  • The Turtle Won The Race: I’d like to say that your brillent words or clearly stated position will convince the other side to see things your way. However, all too often this is not true. What causes the other side to come around to your way of thinking is simply time – lots of it. Be patient and keep restating your main points and eventually the other side of the table will see things your way.
  • Rank Matters: I’d like to say that one’s title doesn’t matter during a negotiation; however, that wouldn’t be correct. It turns out that the higher that somebody’s position is in the company, the less inclined the other side of the table is going to be to argue with him or her.

What All Of This Means For You

Every negotiation has the same goal in mind: finding a way for all parties involved to reach a successful deal. The challenge comes from finding a way to get from where everyone starts out to agreeing on that deal in the end.

Skilled negotiators know that they need find ways to support their position if they want to have any hope of reaching a deal in a reasonable amount of time. In order to make this happen, you can use the 5 tips that we’ve discussed in order to steer the other side of the table towards the deal that you want to strike. Try them out and you’ll be amazed at how much quicker you’re able to wrap-up your next negotiating session!

- Dr. Jim Anderson
Blue Elephant Consulting –
Your Source For Real World Negotiating Skills™

Question For You: What should you do if during a sales negotiation you become angry and don’t feel like wooing the other side of the table?

Click here to get automatic updates when The Accidental Negotiator Blog is updated.

P.S.: Free subscriptions to The Accidental Negotiator Newsletter are now available. Learn what you need to know to do the job. Subscribe now: Click Here!

What We’ll Be Talking About Next Time

The goal of any negotiation is to get the other side of the table to see things your way. Hmm, how are we going to make that happen? What you are going to have to do is to become skilled at finding ways to support the position that you are taking. In order to get better at doing this, I’ve got 5 tips that will boost your skills…

How To Get The Other Side To See Things Your Way During A Negotiation

Friday, February 10th, 2012
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Know How To Use Words To Get The Other Side To See Things Your Way

Know How To Use Words To Get The Other Side To See Things Your Way

The goal of any negotiation is to get the other side of the table to see things your way. Hmm, how are we going to make that happen? What you are going to have to do is to become skilled at finding ways to support the position that you are taking. In order to get better at doing this, I’ve got 5 tips that will boost your skills…

Tips For Reaching A Deal Faster

If you want to be able to reach a deal with the other side of the table faster, then you’re going to have to take the time to give some thought to what it’s going to take in order to get them to see things your way. In other words, you’ve got some persuading to do. Here’s how to make that happen:

  • Do You Want Me?: It turns out that all of us, including the other side of the table really want to be courted. We want others to want us and to take action to win our favor. The other side of the table will be looking for you to complement them, to say nice things to them, to be friendly towards them, and to listen closely to what they have to say. Doing this will win them over to your side.
  • Numbers Don’t Lie: There is something almost magical about facts & figures. When one side of the negotiating table presents a set of numbers both sides seem to accept them as being set in stone – they are numbers so they have to be correct, right? You need to be aware that all numbers always need to be challenged when the other side introduces them; however, feel free to bring your own numbers to the negotiating table and watch the other side start to see things your way.
  • More Is Better: A very peculiar characteristic of us humans is that if one side of the negotiating table asks for something that is going to require a large change of opinion on our part, then they are more likely to get it than if they ask for a smaller change of opinion. The reasons for this are a bit mysterious, but it seems to have something to do with the fact that we can get our hands around small requests and this means that we’ll debate them more. Bigger requests seem to go through with less discussion. Always request more.
  • I Recognize This Request: Your ability to get the other side of the table to see things your way will be improved if you take the time to shape your requests. The more that you make your request “look” like something that the other side has already agreed to, then the better your chances are of reaching agreement with them. Acceptance is increased the fewer differences there are.
  • Show Your Cards: Novice negotiators sometimes think that they can get away with pulling a fast one by just presenting one side of an issue. It’s their hope that if they talk quickly enough and use enough words, the other side will somehow forget that there is another side to the issue. This never happens. What does happen is that the other side realizes that you are trying to fool them and any spirit of cooperation that may have existed in the negotiation is now gone.

What All Of This Means For You

Every negotiation has the same goal in mind: finding a way for all parties involved to reach a successful deal. The challenge comes from finding a way to get from where everyone starts out to agreeing on that deal in the end.

Skilled negotiators know that they need find ways to support their position if they want to have any hope of reaching a deal in a reasonable amount of time. In order to make this happen, you can use the 5 tips that we’ve discussed in order to steer the other side of the table towards the deal that you want to strike. Try them out and you’ll be amazed at how much quicker you’re able to wrap-up your next negotiating session!

- Dr. Jim Anderson
Blue Elephant Consulting –
Your Source For Real World Negotiating Skills™

Question For You: What should you do if during a sales negotiation you become angry and don’t feel like wooing the other side of the table?

Click here to get automatic updates when The Accidental Negotiator Blog is updated.

P.S.: Free subscriptions to The Accidental Negotiator Newsletter are now available. Learn what you need to know to do the job. Subscribe now: Click Here!

What We’ll Be Talking About Next Time

The goal of any negotiation is to get the other side of the table to see things your way. Hmm, how are we going to make that happen? What you are going to have to do is to become skilled at finding ways to support the position that you are taking. In order to get better at doing this, I’ve got 5 tips that will boost your skills…

5 Tips For Making People See Things Your Way

Friday, February 3rd, 2012
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To reach a successful deal, you need to get people to see things the way that you do

To reach a successful deal, you need to get people to see things the way that you do

The goal of any negotiation is to get the other side of the table to see things your way. Hmm, how are we going to make that happen? What you are going to have to do is to become skilled at finding ways to support the position that you are taking. In order to get better at doing this, I’ve got 5 tips that will boost your skills…

Tips For Reaching A Deal Faster

If you want to be able to reach a deal with the other side of the table faster, then you’re going to have to take the time to give some thought to what it’s going to take in order to get them to see things your way. In other words, you’ve got some persuading to do. Here’s how to make that happen:

  • Move From Easy To Hard: Experienced negotiators know that it’s always a good idea to start a negotiation by tackling an issue that both sides are going to be able to easily reach an agreement on. Once you’ve got this success under your belt, then move on and start to tackle the tougher issues that are going to be more controversial.
  • Say It Again: I know that I’ve said this several times before, but I don’t think that I can say it enough – during a sales negotiation, it never hurts to repeat yourself. The more often that you say something, the better the chances that your message is going to be heard by the other side of the table and that it will be understood. Yeah, it might sound silly to you, but repeat yourself enough and you’ll be amazed at what happens.
  • Understand To Build Trust: One of the biggest challenges that every negotiator has is that they want to be understood by the other side of the table. What this means for you is that the more that the other side believes that you understand what they are saying (and why they are saying it), the better your chances of reaching a deal are. Take the time to show the other side that you get what they are saying and you’ll build trust with them which will lead to greater cooperation.
  • Head Off Issues Early: As part of your planning for your next negotiation, you need to take a look at all of the issues that will be discussed. Not all issues are created the same. For those issues that you know that are going to create resistance from the other side of the table, you need to be proactive and take action before they are even brought up. What you are going to want to do is to defuse the issue so that when both sides start to discuss it in earnest, it’s no longer such a controversial issue.
  • Success By Association: If there is an issue that will be part of your next negotiation that has a great deal of controversy associated with it and there is no way to defuse it, then you’ve got to get creative. If the issue gets discussed by itself, you’re going to be in for a rough time. However, if you can find a way to associate this controversial issue with another issue that is less controversial then you’ll be more likely to be able to reach agreement on it.

What All Of This Means For You

Every negotiation has the same goal in mind: finding a way for all parties involved to reach a successful deal. The challenge comes from finding a way to get from where everyone starts out to agreeing on that deal in the end.

Skilled negotiators know that they need find ways to support their position if they want to have any hope of reaching a deal in a reasonable amount of time. In order to make this happen, you can use the 5 tips that we’ve discussed in order to steer the other side of the table towards the deal that you want to strike. Try them out and you’ll be amazed at how much quicker you’re able to wrap-up your next negotiating session!

- Dr. Jim Anderson
Blue Elephant Consulting –
Your Source For Real World Negotiating Skills™

Question For You: How many times do you think that you can repeat yourself during a negotiating session?

Click here to get automatic updates when The Accidental Negotiator Blog is updated.

P.S.: Free subscriptions to The Accidental Negotiator Newsletter are now available. Learn what you need to know to do the job. Subscribe now: Click Here!

What We’ll Be Talking About Next Time

The goal of any negotiation is to get the other side of the table to see things your way. Hmm, how are we going to make that happen? What you are going to have to do is to become skilled at finding ways to support the position that you are taking. In order to get better at doing this, I’ve got 5 tips that will boost your skills…